In our house we live by a simple code. Don’t hurt other people unless they hurt you first. Our only rule is, don’t lie. And we encourage their seemingly endless questions and individuality. Our children are two very different individuals.
My son is a Lego loving, science reading nose in the research papers child. He doesn’t really care for the out of doors but tolerates it and animals because his daddy and sister love them both. Guess what, my wife and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
My daughter is an active daddy mimicking, mommy following girl who loves to shoot guns, bows and ride horses. If she could have it her way; every stray we see, hear or may possibly exist would live at our house. She writes, does math and at five can out-shoot most law enforcement and soldiers I have ever met. She regularly spends 30-45 minutes a day practicing bow and arrows as she calls it.
Know how we did it?
Encourage your children to think, question and observe.
Don’t be completely hands off and don’t spank them. Spanking is a contrary approach, yes folks, your bible and parents were and or are wrong. Spanking doesn’t fix a problem, it simply teaches the children to become better at hiding mistakes and not accepting responsibility for them.
Think about wolves, elephants and birds. Be a parent, teach them personal responsibility, apologize and FIX what you break, more importantly learn from your mistakes and become better from them.
The one rule in the house is simple, don’t lie. There is never an excuse to lie, you don’t have to be an open book, however, when you open up DO NOT LIE.
Lastly, remember, every single thing you do they observe and mimic. What you say has little real bearing on their individual actions.
Free the mind and the body will follow.