Yes, I said it, how I parent is none of your concern. After all as an individual I have no desire to create an entire world or even local community of “me’s”. Some within the liberty world seem to desire this, they adhere to the trend that currently fits their life now and make it clear that everyone that doesnt agree is a statist or worse, child abusing Neanderthal. This is most commonly seen in the unschooled and no-spanking communities.
The messiah of the no spanking movement is the infamous Stefan Moleyneux and there are several within the unschooled realm. What is the same in both camps is the rhetoric and recitation that occurs verbatim. While I personally do not make a habit of spanking my children and see it as a form of abuse and while I prefer alternative methods of schooling for children be at least available; I am not going to call another person a child abuser because they disagree. This approach that has been taken by some within these respective camps is no better then what they claim to be against.
Leave it to me to be the blunt asshole in this regards though, hell, I am proud to be that asshole when it is called for.
What I am about to present is the idea that parenting is not supposed to be one way or another. What I am about to present is that natural parenting is meant to be a combination of the following in approach. And so before your panties or jocks start on fire, take a minute to read what is written below and than think about what you follow and why. Remember, replacing one religion (the state or myth based) with another (internet philosopher or one time parent) is really just propagating the cycle of ignorance as a whole. Utilizing information and knowledge from all available sources to better grow, now that is a path to enlightenment!
In no particular order I present natural parenting, examples and the why and how I do it.
- Central and South America is home to the Tamarins, a squirrel sized species of monkeys. The most common form of parenting within these monkeys is two fathers and a mother. Yes folks, two dads! Or better yet, a polyamorous living situation. Tamarin males lift and carry the young which is a big help for the mother. In other words, the guys do the ladies work! While I am not gay nor am I currently in a situation where two males are present I support those who do engage in this and in fact applaud them for the intelligent approach to parenting that so many modern humans seem to be lacking. (Intelligence that is)
- Elephants from both continents engage in group parenting, with aunts, mothers and sisters all taking part in rearing the young. While the males are sent outside the herd to bellow, grunt and occasionally mate with a female. Being married into a mexican (not hispanic) family this is common practice with humans of some cultures, specifically Hispanic. Houses will have several generations within the walls rearing kids and birthing more. Males are sent outside with their beers and bbq’s to pound their chests and talk about mating rituals while females gather inside and raise the young properly. This has found its way into our family dynamic to some extent, and is embraced.
- Emperor penguins a reverse dynamic is seen here. The mom has sex, lays eggs and dad gets to raise the kids! Yes, folks, being a stay at home daddy is a NATURAL thing. And while I have yet to weather a brutal winter with just my hairy torso and the kids on my feet, the idea of being the male parent at home is not unnatural.
- Hyenas are a reverse ordered family grouping with females being larger and stronger the males tend to stay out of the way. Baby girls will often order dad around and if dad is a good boy she will treat him nicely when she matures. Interestingly this can be seen in stay at home dad and daughter family dynamics as well. Especially mine, while my daughter respects me, she also understands that without her guidance dad is simply not going to get it all the time.
- In every animal family setting there is punishment for wrong action this ranges from getting pecked on the head to getting nipped by mom or dad. It varies in quantity and quality depending on the animal species and yet, it is always seen.
- In every animal family grouping there is an amount of training that occurs. This is nurture in approach and reflects habits that the parents have being passed on to the children. From hunting to gathering habits are not always instinctual and are much of the time passed on from parents to young.
So here it is folks, my responsibility as a parent is to feed, cloth and care for my young. It is also my responsibility to see that they are taught to care for themselves whether it be through certified education centers or by my hands. Additional responsibilities are to teach them to respect others property and to respect themselves.
So when I hear someone saying that this way or that way is the only way regarding kids, I have to laugh and almost always write them off as having any sense at all. After all, if we want our children to be individuals how can we believe that we must raise them with only one approach?
Free the mind and the body will follow