Unschooling, Homeschooling and Common core: Why none may be perfect

Education is commonly defined as, the process of receiving or giving systematic instruction, esp. at a school or university OR receiving an enlightening experience. My children both attend schools, one attends a Science Academy who recently switched to common core approaches and the other attends a Montessori School. I was home schooled followed by life experience and University education. I can say from experience and by simply ASKING my children what they want, that what may work for one will not work for all. 301870_4643987011244_1486831755_n

My son has autism, a real mental difference from us “normals”. He thinks, sees and perceives his surroundings in ways that most “normals” cannot comprehend and do not try to understand. He jumps, flaps his arms occasionally and is quite specific in food tastes and clothing feel. He is brilliant and can do math in his head that many adults cannot do with an entire notebook of paper. He remembers scientific facts and recites history by rote. He cannot spell nor write in a legible manner, forgetting punctuation, capitalization and much more regularly. As a result he is seen as deficient by many in the “education” system. As a result it falls on his parents shoulders to educate his “educators” as to what works and what doesnt with him. 1455107_10201663533643700_1594311149_n

He attends the school he does because we pay them to follow a prescribed pattern of approaches and adjust as necessary throughout the year. His education is at best what others would see as a C+ student sometimes a B student. And yet, he is without a doubt far more intelligent in many areas then most normals I know. He is 11 years old and can do math easily that leaves most college students stuttering. If he was tested using a standard IQ test he would show in the high double digits but not much further, simply because he does not think like normals do.

My daughter is not autistic, she is “normal”, however, she is also quite brilliant, as long as you dont try and put her in a box. She is four years old, and is doing second grade addition and subtraction word problems daily, as a game that SHE made up! She is learning to read and write and is allowed to express her creativity further enhancing her ability to grasp archaic educational approaches as well as advanced approaches. She is a genius, and if tested would easily test at 140+ on a standard IQ test for her age. I am proud to say that she is more intelligent then I am, and I harbor no ill will in fact, all I can do is continue to promote her desire to learn new things. 64086_4644475863465_207745131_n

If she asks for music lessons (which she has) I attempt to set them up for her, if she asks to go shooting, we go shooting. You see, because honesty is the most important essential ingredient in our family we are able to do more then most families. Trust is not an issue when even on the off days and one of the kids stumbles a lie out, it is easily found out, sadly nodded over and let go. Trust is not an issue, because we are honest with each other.

So here is my voluntaryist approach to schooling with my kids and if I was placed in charge of other children it would be for them as well. Educate them based on what they want and what they need. Show them by example how we should live our lives, if we want a clean house, clean the house, if we want manners TREAT OTHERS WITH THEM. If we want them to trust us and communicate with us, LISTEN when they talk regardless the inane nature of the talk, trust them to make decisions. Guard them against obviously dangerous decisions. Letting our 4-6 year old walk down a city street alone is stupid, however, letting them walk down the street a couple doors with you watching shows you trust them to do it alone, but still care enough to PROTECT them. 1495_4680580886068_1219184869_n

Education folks, is NOT a one way approach or street. My daughter asked my wife last night if she could cut coupons, not because we have her do it, but because it is something my wife does and my daughter simply wants to be LIKE HER PARENTS! One way is not the best way, with eating, dieting, living, moving, life in general. WE ARE individuals, and as INDIVIDUALS should never need to conform to ONE WAY!

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About Jesse Mathewson

Jesse Mathewson is the author of the popular blog, jessetalksback.com and provides commentary to many varied places based on a background that includes education in criminal justice, history, religion and even insurgency tactics and tactical training. His current role in his community is as an organizer of sorts and a preacher of community solidarity and agorism. He also runs Liberty Practical Training, a self defense school specializing in the practical applications of defensive approaches versus the theoretical. As an agorist, voluntaryist and atheist his life is seen as crazy and wild by many, though once they get to know him most realize he is a bluntly honest individual who will give you the shirt off his back if he believes it is necessary to help you. Very simple, "That which is voluntary between all individuals involved is always right, if it is not voluntary, it is always wrong."
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6 Responses to Unschooling, Homeschooling and Common core: Why none may be perfect

  1. RedDesilets says:

    Thank you for this! I get bashed a lot in our groups b/c my kids are all in public school. I cannot afford private school and the homeschooling/unschooling paradigms are not entirely practical either (esp if I get a career going trying to get real justice in the criminal justice field). I’m not a bad parent b/c my kids are in public school. Esp the one they are in. It’s an Arts infused Magnet school that feeds into the middle school of the arts. Really good programs at this school. My ADHD 10 yr old struggles but overall is “getting” it. He would have trouble learning in almost every scenario. My youngest, 7, is brilliant. Not kidding he is wicked smart and the school has the advanced programs that can keep him interested. My oldest will be 18 in two months and is graduating high school. In the topics that interest him, his grades are high, in subjects he’s not they are just passing (which is fine by me… I don’t push honor roll if it ain’t gonna happen, ya know?). But outside school he is very intelligent! I don’t feel for one second that I am giving them a bad start just b/c they are in public school. If something happens, I can always change my mind and try something else but for now, it’s a good fit for us.


    • Exactly, I continually work with my kids to ALWAYS question belief systems and approaches. And they do, much to their teachers amusement or chagrin depending. It is amazing how many teachers tell me, I love your son because…or daughter because…


      • RedDesilets says:

        ditto… my 10 yr old is a real challenge. i do believe he legitimately has ADHD however I will not medicate him. we try to manage it through a high protein diet and higher activity to tire him out (though that last bit sometimes makes him cranky – it’s tough manage). We are doing the best we can and it’s a real kick in the nuts (metaphorically of course as I have none being a woman LOL) when someone trashes me b/c my kids go to a public school. They don’t know me or my kids or our situation and they can take their harsh words and stick it where the sun don’t shine for all I care. Their opinion of me means precisely squat.


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